March / April 2003

Pat and Chay.

Angel's has sold?

The Mustang Ranch Museum.

Bobbi's post.

As of this writing, ArcticBear's Awards still seem to be on hold.

Phoenix is in a coma?

Pat's recent experience.

Kama Sutra on independents versus LPINs.

REDD on good brothel owners.

Kitty's travails.

Chay's complaints.

Robbey Heart got an expensive quote! And here, again.

Can you decode what DeniseSecrets is saying? And this one? And especially this?

Did Bobbi post this?

Curious will bust my chops for not writing a full description of this interesting (and pertinent) website.

I've got news for "lilhawk" - Bonanza Jellybean already works at Sue's but isn't available!

Dopey's photo policy.

Jennafer about love-sick clients.

Avid Reader talks dirty!

EDITORIAL #014 :

I am a guy who loves to check out the action. I am unapologetic about it. I travel a long distance to visit Nevada to see what lovelies are working, and I want to take my time to check them out before spending my hard-earned money. This editorial gives some of my observations on this process.

First off, don't believe anyone who says that visiting a Nevada brothel is easy. On the surface it would seem so, especially for an old-timer such as myself, but I remember all-too-well what it was like my first several visits, and even in recent years I get the jitters when I approach that front gate with its buzzer. Visiting a brothel is difficult, scary, and frightening. I am almost always nervous, no matter how well-motivated I am. I am not usually so apprehensive when I visit a Tijuana hooker bar, probably because they are less threatening (but much louder) than their Nevada counterparts, but I was a little jittery a couple weeks ago when I stepped into Adelita's to catch my favorita, Elizabeth, whom I've been frequenting now for years.

To be sure, much of my reticence in going to a brothel must be my own hang-up, but I am convinced that part of it is the psychological pressure the brothels put on visitors to pick or go. The industry hates "Lookie Lou's", to the extent that it designs the process to make it difficult for a guy to scope out the action in all of the neighboring brothels before deciding who interests him. Just try telling the girls after you've been given a line-up (which you didn't request) that you want to visit their competitors before making your decision. Very unfriendly.

Over the years I've also been put into the situation that Fastweb posted about here. I've asked these questions of several working girls over the years, and the primary answer they give me is that the best way to get a nuisance lady to leave you alone is for you to point another lady out to her and tell her that you want to talk to this other lady. This is not a good answer because this assumes that I already know another lady that I do want to talk to, and the essential ingredient in having a good time is to take your time and shop around.

Fastweb's first statement / question was : "1. Let's say I'm at the bar in the brothel for the first time, and a lady I do NOT find appealing walks over and starts a conversation with me. What should I do? I heard from another post that I should ask how I'd go about getting a line-up and that is a universal signal to the lady that I'm not interested."

There are no "universal signals". YMMV applies here as well as it applies anywhere else.

Fastweb wrote, "2. Would she go and tell the madam that I want a line-up? All I wanted to do was politely tell her I'm not interested."

For years I've advised guys to avoid a line-up. If a guy wants one, then hey, go for it, but line-ups are too much pressure for guys like me who want to just relax and take it easy and look for the lay of the land.

Fastweb wrote, "3. If I do have a line-up, would I have to choose a lady right then?"

Even when given a line-up that you requested, you don't have to pick a lady, but it is a good idea not to waste the ladies' time by asking them for a line-up when you don't want one.

Fastweb wrote, "4. Let's say that I have a line-up and then take the tour with a lady, but then get walked or walk myself during negotiations. Now that I'm back in the bar and another lady I do NOT find appealing starts up yet another conversation with me, how'd I go about dealing with her? I heard you're only allowed one line-up per visit."

I think that Fastweb already knows the answer. Asking for a line-up to get rid of an unattractive motormouth is not a good idea.

Fastweb wrote, "I know these scenarios are pretty slim, but they COULD happen. If you find one lady not appealing, whose to say there's a second you don't find appealing either? Everyone has different tastes even at some of the more popular houses. Put your thoughts and advice here :"

What do I do? When a lady whom I'm not interested in approaches me in the parlor and yaks on and on, I just politely listen and give her minimal input hoping that she will soon tire and leave. If she asks me to go with her to her room, I tell her the truth, which is that I'm checking out the action and am not yet ready to party. Keep it simple, polite and true.

There are far too many examples I could list here of psychological pressure tactics that the legal Nevada brothels use on customers. We guys are raised by our mommies to be nice, polite little boys, and so of course we don't want to insult a lady by refusing her request for sex, even if it is a request for money for sex. Right?

Fastweb wrote, "NOTHING NEGATIVE!!! I don't know how many times I've said that."

This Fastweb guy has a lot to learn. There is nothing that you can do or say, no matter how nice, that someone can't make out to be bad.

Be seeing you.

Bashful