Most CWM members agree that outdates are more relaxed. They give the opportunity to do things that could not be done or would be very limited to do in-house. In a recent viewing of a Playboy TV show starring Dr. Ruth some ideas were presented which can be applied to this fun and enjoyable function. I have added to those basic ideas to fit an outdate situation.
There are 7 Major ideas that we could use for an outdate. The following are those ideas in outline form:
1. Preheating to oven.
When we bake we always preheat the oven. Why not take this principle to our outdate. Sex is good but getting intimate along with the sex will make the outdate more enjoyable and memorable. You can start off by not even making a sexual advance but maybe have a picnic with wine, cheese, spiced meats, bakery bread and pastries for a meal right in the room. The talking and the chatter between the two of you will help "preheat the oven". Talk to the lady in advance of the outdate to see what she likes to eat. House food can be boring so find out what are her favorite foods. Chinese could be an option. Check and see if she is allergic to certain foods or is a vegetarian. If you are going to a first class hotel, get a room service menu from that hotel and bring it along with you in your pre-bargaining session. Get the honeymoon suite at the hotel/motel or a room that has a hot tub. Get a manicure (you nails should be cut short); this says something about your grooming and there is another reason that I will go into later. Scented candles can set the mood, so get a few for your picnic and for your other activities. Other supplies on hand might be some lubricant that is not oil based, some condoms (even though she will have them but just in case she forgets), and music to help set the mood. Again this is where you pre outdate talk is important. Have some flowers for her waiting in the room. You want to set the tone of the date. Leave nothing to chance.
2. Don't Squeeze! Tease!
A. Hot Tub Basics
If your room has a hot tub, adjourn to it after the good meal. Being clean all over is a way to allow you to enjoy your outdate. While in the tub, have her wash you and you her. We all ,when were children, enjoyed the bath our parents gave us. This can be the prelude to what will come later in your outdate. If you use the hot tub please have some moisturizing lotion or massage oil available. Many of the ladies are in the hot tub at the house several times a day or even many more times a week and dry skin could be a problem for her. Use a scented bath oil such as rosewood in the tub. Here again is another reason to ask her what are her favorite scents? Make good conversation while in the tub. Cuddle and show that you are a warm and gentle man.
B. Mutual Massage.
After the hot tub a good massage is in order. Use the skin lotion or massage oil as a lubricant. The lady goes first. There are many massage techniques and the local public library will have some books on the subject. When you massage the lady, get close to the erogenous areas but do not touch. Then lightly massage the breasts but avoid the nipple. Remember Tease not Squeeze. There are thousands of nerve endings in the feet, give her a good foot massage as well as the body massage. You can kiss her on the body parts that you are massaging. Do it lightly. Caress her gently but make sure she gets the full body treatment. Good communication between the two of you is a must for all the steps mentioned here. If rubbing an area of her feels good to her make sure she tells you. The same goes for you. If you give a good massage chances are you are going to get a good massage.
3. What does she want? Take your erotic personality with you to bed.
Beside the monetary compensation you are giving her, find out what she really enjoys in fore play. Maybe she can masturbate for you and you can observe what she enjoys. Now is the time to hit those spots you have avoided. Use what is called the spiders touch. A spider can walk on your arm and you will feel him but it will be ever so light in touch. Run your fingers down her whole body but do it lightly. Go near the erogenous zones but tease a little. Let the anticipation of you touching those spots build. Remember what you do will be done by her also on you. These are professionals and they will follow your lead.
See if you are allowed to arouse her by what I call flicking the clitoris. The clitoris has many, many nerve endings. With plenty of lubricant, and a very light touch flick the clitoriswith your finger. Some women are so sensitive on the clitoris that too strong a touch can be painful. Your finger nail can scratch so that is why I said get a professional manicure. If she allows you to flick the clitoris have good communication with her so that she can direct you to the proper spot and the proper amount of pressure. If your outdate enjoys vaginal massage see if you are permitted to find the G-Spot which is located on the upper wall just inside the vagina. It will feel like tiny ball bearings. Again pressure, location, and frequency are her calls. Many women do not climax as fast as men so be prepared to do these massages for up to 20 minutes or more. Some women are not sensitive here but some are. The fun is in the exploration.
4. Put your Honey where you mouth is.
If your are fortunate enough for her to allow you to perform oral sex to her, again be gentle and use good communication with her. The major and minor labia are sensitive as well as the clitoris and vaginal opening. Remember turn about is fair play. Techniques here can only be perfected with on the job training. School is always in, in the matter of love.
5. Toys and Boys.
She may have a collection of sex toys. Have her bring them along. Be honest gents. An outdate session can last a long time and that time can be used wisely and with much fun. Try using some sex toys so long as she is willing!
Light touch, such as the spider touch mentioned before, can incorporate the use of a feather. You can purchase feathers of different types and textures at a good craft store. They are sterilized and the use of them in an erotic tickle all over the body. If she agrees to it, bring a sleep mask along so that while you are tickling with a feather she can not see and will concentrate on the feel of that feather. A feathers touch on the excited erogenous zones can lead to more excitement.
The use of an ice cube can also be fun too!
6. Vary your love patterns
An outdate is not the time for the Wham, Bam, Thank you Ma'am style of love making. Take your time and try something new. You are with a professional and she my have some ideas. Again communication is imperative. Vary your love making positions and ask if a light spank on the buttocks is something that she enjoys. Also, don't be afraid to tell her what you like. There is only one rule here and that is to be as gentle or strong as your partner likes it. If you tire easy do the cowboy position for awhile or the scissors position which is not a physically demanding position. If you are really lucky and you are permitted to kiss, go for it. If not there are places that you can kiss close to the mouth that have good results. The mouth corners are places were you might be able to kiss or try an around the world in 80 kisses and have her keep count.
Remember the after glow time when you have both climaxed and hold each other. Talk, fondle, and caress. Some say that professionals do not climax but if you follow these tips you just might catch her with her guard down. Regardless your outdate can be a memorable time for you and for your lady. It may just separate the men from the boys.
7. It is easy to be a gentlemen.
It is easy to be a gentlemen so why not be
one. Treat your escort with the respect and honor that she truly deserves.
Be courteous at all times. Avoid too much consumption of alcohol
as it will affect your performance in love making and you will have to
drive your lady back to the house. Be honest with your lady and make
the surprises to her only pleasant ones. Use your communication skills
and your planning skills to make your outdate a success. Yes, you
are in the arms of a professional but that means also that you can be professional
in your attitude towards her. Show a good time and it will pay dividends.
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